You Heard It Here: Life — 10 Comments

  1. My family didn’t actually have to care for my grandmother in her later days because she was in a group home, but my mom, sister and I took turns visiting her. Because of how far away I live (30 miles), I only went once a week, but my sis and mom went more often. So my suggestion is utilize her family. Her kids are mostly grown now, right? Because I know you and you’ll want to take the whole burden on your shoulders, but this is their chance to step up. Let them do it. 🙂

    • Hi Kate,
      In theory, it sounds good, but her daughter is out of town (college) and her son juggles work and school. It’s going to be a tough juggle for all of us. I’m sure we’ll figure it out. I’m all for everyone stepping up. Haha. Thanks for dropping in!

  2. It’s never easy, Dee J. I know, after having helped my daughter with her grandmother. I lived a 2+ hour drive away and it was hard. And my daughter took on way too much, but that was what she wanted. I know you and family and friends will work it out and your sister will be appreciative. Here’s to the very best recovery possible.

    • Hi Robena,
      Thank you! I’m taking the 25 minute drive between my house and the hospital as prep and decompress time, respectively. Haha. At least it’s not a 2+ hour commute! I don’t think I’d handle that very well. Thanks for dropping in!

  3. Hi Dee,
    Recovery is extremely difficult during this time…Her pain is your pain…But with the help of families and friends I’m sure you will work things out. I took care of my late husband for over two years. It was difficult… when he saw me feeling down watching him suffer he would say…there is always someone worse off than me…The power of prayers will always see us thru and it is coming your way every single day…Hugs to you and your sister…God bless

    • Hi Marie,
      Thank you so much. I really appreciate all the support you’ve shown from the beginning. My sis knows who you are now. LOL. Hugs always appreciated! Thank you, thank you!

  4. Hi Dee J.,

    You’re a good sister!

    One suggestion that only hits your wallet as opposed to your bandwidth…if she doesn’t have a housekeeper, she and her husband might really appreciate the Merry Maids coming once a week for a couple of months. If several people go splitzies to cover the cost, it’s not that much, and it takes a little bit of burden off.

    I’m wishing sis a speedy and optimal recovery!

    • Hi Samanthe,
      I’m not sure if she has any help or not recently. I’ll have to do some investigating. That’s a great idea! (Because I draw the line at windows and toilets! LOL.)
      Thanks for the wishes!

  5. My mom lived with me for 7 years after my dad died, and until she passed away from COPD. Our last year was tough going at times. Family helped a lot…brothers, her grandkids, etc. I also found a nice, caring lady through our church to come in 1/2 days during the week for her last few months while I was at work so she’d have some company as well as some help. Home health care workers can also be great to help with everyday tasks that might be embarrassing for family members, anyway, like bathing. Could you take a laptop to her place to write while you keep her company, or maybe while she naps? She’ll probably sleep better just knowing you’ll be there when she wakes up. If it’s a long enough drive to/from her house, could you use that time for dictating notes to yourself about your WIP, brainstorming new story ideas, or maybe listening to an audiobook? Best wishes to her (and you!) for a fast and complete recovery. ~ Kay

    • Hi Kay,
      Thank you! That’s all great advice! Sounds like you had a good thing worked out with your mom. Seven years a long time! It’s great that you got to spend so much time with her before she died. Thanks for the well wishes and my apologies for the late reply! It’s been a crazy couple of days at the hospital!