Rights and Wrongs


I took my 21 year old nephew out for dinner for his birthday and we ordered his first (legal) beer. I’ve been debating whether it makes me a cool aunt or a woman contributing to the delinquency of a recent minor. Granted, I didn’t know until the end of the meal that he’s not a beer fan (so I had to sip some of his…you know…I don’t like to waste good alcohol. <G>). He barely had any. It made me feel good and bad at the same time. Good in that I shouldn’t worry that taking him out for alcohol is going to make him a lush and bad that I forced my beer loving ways on the poor boy/man.

I’ve always been of the mind that if the youngsters of my family are going to drink, I’d rather be around for it then have them do it behind my back.

So tell me… have any of you contributed to the delinquency of a minor? Feel free to change the names to protect the innocent!

Remember, you heard it here.

Dee J.

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Rights and Wrongs — 10 Comments

  1. You have just performed a vital function in society: that of the cool (female) relative. The woman of the world. The lady who “knows.” And the nice thing is that this function is never performed by a young woman. It has to be a woman of grace and experience. A grandmother, an aunt (very rarely a mother), even someone whose ties to the family are tenuous. So congratulations! Best way to celebrate? Raise a glass!

  2. Hi Sharon!
    Whew! I feel better now. The guilt hit halfway through the meal when I noticed he hadn’t had too much to drink. I’m like… “Why didn’t you tell me you didn’t like beer?” LOL. I think he appreciated our time together. He asked for another one. (Dinner, I mean, not beer!)

    • Thanks Julie! Let’s hope so. I’d hate to be the “shrew aunt.” (Although I think I may have hit that a few times over the years. )

  3. It’s a right of passage. I’m glad he got to celebrate it with you. My son is not much of an alcohol drinker either, he by far prefers a Coca Cola with lots of ice. But that makes it good because he’s always my daughter’s and my driver if we go to a family celebration, or restaurant and want a glass of wine or a margarita. : )

    • Hi Robena,
      Sounds like you raised great kids. One to drink with you and the other to be the designated driver after the fun! LOL. Nicely done. Maybe my nephew will be my designated driver at family get togethers.

  4. It cannot be considered contributing to the delinquency of a minor if he’s 21. I’d say cool aunt. Good kid and it’s best not to get him hooked on the kool-aid infused drinks like a Long Island Ice Tea anyway – the beer order was perfect.

    We normally take our 21 year olds to Las Vegas for the big birthday. Thankfully the next one is a ways off.

    • Hi Maria,
      I think he had originally planned a Vegas trip and it fell through. He got stuck with me forcing him beer. LOL. He is a good kid. Love him. (And I finished his beer. Good for all of us. )